I wanted to change it up a little bit with The Wonder Blog and post about Anxiety. For as long as I can remember I have always struggled with my mental health and for a very long time I didn’t tell anyone. I think I was seen as perhaps unreliable, high maintenance and a typical snowflake millennial. Comments were made to me like ‘you’re boring’ and ‘you expect too much’ to make think and feel that way.
It was about 2 years ago when I had another severe episode (an episode = breaking down, crying, feeling like I didn’t belong and pushing people away). I went to my GP and she referred me to CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) as well as signing me off work for 2 weeks. Eventually crying everyday turned into every other day and then eventually stopped. I went back to work and a few weeks later, I attended my first CBT group session.
CBT, changed me and gave me inspiration. The group CBT, allowed me to connect with other people from different cultures, backgrounds and ages as well learn tools and techniques to manage a low mood.
To this day, I am sure CBT saved me.
It was last year when I realised I missed having a connection with others, something I got from the CBT group sessions. These people were not my best friends, but we all had a certain relatability about each other. I looked for networking groups in Marlow as well as Maidenhead or Slough etc and I just couldn’t find anything I felt I could connect with… so November 2018, I launched Coffee Corners, started writing a blog and stepped outside my comfort zone and started networking with the soul purpose of empowering, connecting and helping other women whether it would be a mum going back to work (I could help with a CV) or someone starting a business (I could help with social media).
Almost a year on since launching The Wonder Blog and leading networking events as well as attending others, Anxiety and I still have our struggles, but with the struggles I have achieved more than I thought I ever could. From connecting with amazing people, making new friends, building on a career and supporting others and their own business ventures – I have found ways to cope and more importantly to succeed in life.
Someone I met through networking said to me ‘that great strength, success and empowerment comes from those who have anxiety’ to me, this rings true and is now my moto for life!
A bit of info…
‘Anxiety is what we feel when we are worried, tense or afraid – particularly about things that are about to happen, or which we think could happen in the future. Anxiety is a natural human response when we perceive that we are under threat. It can be experienced through our thoughts, feelings and physical sensations.’ (quoted from: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/about-anxiety/#.XZXRGEZKg2w)
Anxiety doesn’t come in one form where one person could suffer from panic attacks another could have struggles getting out of bed in the morning and socialising. Anxiety Disorders include, but not limited to – Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety, Panic, Phobias, PTSD, OCD and Body Dysmorphic.
The ways I deal with Anxiety are:
- Relaxing bath
- Watch an uplifting movie
- ASMR videos
- Speaking to a friend, family, loved one
- Walking around the block
- Blogging (The Wonder Blog)
- Virtual networking
- Networking (whether something I lead or attend)
If you are reading this and feeling that things are getting too much, please go and see your GP. A GP can offer medication, sign you off work and refer you to CBT.
Other (UK) based websites can help:
I want to say a special thank you, to my Mum, Dad, Boyfriend and Friends who have supported me. For the phone calls, the ideas, the support, the laughs, the hard times and the love. Without you, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
To finish with, I will say – Although, according to my other half, I might be high maintenance but I am certainly not unreliable or even a snowflake (if you didn’t cry at the end of ‘The Notebook’, then do you even have a heart? 😉 ) You are the master of your own destiny and great strength, success and empowerment comes from those who have their struggles.